I have not included tips like ‘get fit – exercise boosts the endorphins’ or ‘do a detox diet – flush out the rubbish and feel refreshed’. Whilst this is helpful advice, we both know that when you are rock bottom, you can’t find the energy for anything that big.
Being Infinitely Kind And Loving To Yourself
Remember, this is not about putting any more pressure on yourself. It is not intended to make you feel worse about what you can’t manage to do right now.
This is about doing what you can, when you can.
It is about being infinitely kind and loving to yourself through your depression.
My 10 Ways To Help Depression – For You
1. NURTURE YOURSELF
When you are depressed, you are as vulnerable as a child. You need to be taken care of and treated with gentleness, patience and endless kindness.
So imagine that there are 2 parts to you. 1 part of you is depressed and is completely in need of being taken care of, and that is really okay. The other part of you is gentle and strong and focuses only on nurturing and being kind to you.
By developing this relationship, you realise that you are not alone. You always have yourself, and you grow to trust just how strong the nurturer in you can be.
Before I ever started using this concept, I felt so isolated when I was depressed. But then I started doing it, and it created changes in me and my life that I could not have imagined.
It will for you too; blossoms will begin to grow where there was only barren land.
2. MAKE YOURSELF TEA
I know, I know. You are probably laughing at me and how English I am. And there is definitely some truth in the fact that we love our tea!
But it doesn’t have to be tea. It could be any hot drink. There is something about the sensation of wrapping your hand around a warm cup, cuddling it into your chest, and drinking down the warm goodness that fills you with snuggles.
And while you’re at it, you might as well give yourself a big hug. Wrap your arms around yourself and give yourself some much needed love.
3. HAVE A BATH/SHOWER
I can’t quite put my finger on how bathing/showering always manages to make me feel better. I think there is perhaps just something very special about water, no matter where you find it; a stream, lake, sea.
But being able to surround your body in the warmth and security of water in a shower/bath is magical. Let the security and love soak up into you for as long as you want.
All in your house, for free.
4. GIVE YOURSELF PERMISSION
Allow yourself to feel how you feel. All of us, including me, are troubled by our own self-judgement and particularly when we are depressed.
This is the time to park all of that judgement and stop trying to fight how you feel.
You feel horrendous and that is really okay. Give yourself the permission now so that you can start taking care of yourself.
5. SIT OUTSIDE/GO FOR A GENTLE WALK
This is the biggest one that I struggle with when I feel really low but the benefits are huge. What I realise once I have mustered the energy to get outside is that it wasn’t actually too hard and I always thank myself for it.
Getting out of the house, even if this just means sitting outside or going for a light walk, will change your energy powerfully and effortlessly.
Connect with nature. Breathe in the fresh air. See a different side of life.
6. WATCH A PROGRAM THAT MAKES YOU FEEL LIGHT
Personally, I am a fan of cooking programs and holiday shows. They are easy to watch, generally everybody is in a light, happy mood and maybe there is even a joke or two that can make me smile.
Whatever it is that you can put on the TV to feed you a little bit of the joy that you can’t quite feel right now, stick it on. Escape for a little bit because you probably need a little break.
7. CONNECT TO YOUR BREATH
Take a good long breath in. Fill your lungs.
Be present whilst you exhale deeply and be present as you let go.
Inhale again and enjoy the peaceful sensation of the sweet air connecting you to yourself.
Exhale and be still.
8. CUDDLE YOURSELF UP – duvets, onesie and all
Okay so you may not have an onesie, but you get the idea.
Make yourself feel as cosy and comfortable as possible. There is no point in pushing yourself to do more or be more when you just aren’t feeling it.
Wrap yourself up like a little kid and enjoy.
9. IF THERE IS SOMEONE WITH WHOM YOU FEEL SAFE, HAVE THEM OVER FOR A CHAT
This one is completely up to you. It all depends on whether this feels right for you or not. You will know what you really need.
Sometimes it helps to talk about how we feel. Other times we just want someone to tell us an entertaining story. And sometimes we actually want to just be alone. Either way, if you do want to see someone, make sure that you choose someone that you feel safe with.
10. LISTEN TO YOURSELF
What is it that you feel you could do right now to feel better?
No one knows better than you, what it is that will most support you right now. You are your own best teacher and friend.
Whatever it is that you positively answer, do it.
Your depression won’t last forever. This is all about getting you through the hardest part, and most importantly about loving yourself through it all.
Well done for doing so well.
With all my love,